Monday, 25 September 2017

The Best Quotes From Strong Empowering Women

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There have been countless amounts of empowering and incredible women throughout history, with many making important role models for so many other people. From authors to politicians, singers to designers women have been an important part in the making of our current world, yet being a woman is still a struggle in today's society. I've decided to create a list of my favourite quotes from just a handful of these amazing women. In life, you need a strong role model to help guide and inspire you and luckily the world is full to the brim of amazing women to choose from.

Wednesday, 20 September 2017

Weightloss Wednesday || Losing Weight & Being Healthy Is Not Cheap.

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Today I want to talk about how hard it is to be healthy and lose weight on a budget. I am not able to work at the moment, due to many issues; my physical health, my mental health, where I live etc. Trust me I have tried but I haven’t found a job suitable for all my needs yet (but I will!) Due to this I do live on a budget, a very low budget. If anyone else in my situation knows, what you get is very very little. I’m talking maybe having £15 a week, sometimes less, on food for a week. In that, it also has to include essentials etc. So, it’s a mission! I wouldn't be able to afford any food really if it wasnt for James. 

Sunday, 17 September 2017

Advice For People Travelling Long Journeys With Disabilities

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So, I’ve just come back from a wonderful week in Cornwall with my Mum, Step Dad and little brother. It was brilliant. Despite the fact, the weather was a little problematic (we did get a little sun) it didn’t stop us doing everything we wanted to do. Picnic in the car at the beach, cream teas, walks, cosy nights in. I flew down because I went down a week after they first went down but in the back of my mind I knew what was coming at the end. About a 6-hour journey home in a car with potential traffic! It was a nightmare but I handled it well.

So, with that, I thought I’d do a post on travelling on long journeys with disabilities.  I have made a list of the tips I found helpful on m journey. It wasn’t without fault, I still ended up with cramp in both legs, back spasms and a constant headache over the next 24 hours but it could have been worse.

Friday, 15 September 2017

My Review of No Filter by Grace Victory

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Author  — Grace F Victory

Genre — Biography

Published — 2017

Amazon Synopsis From struggling with an eating disorder and body image issues to flashing Harry Potter (yes, that really did happen), Grace Victory has experienced it all. Here, in No Filter, Grace shares her inspirational story of growing up in a troubled household, battling with depression and finally overcoming it all by learning to love herself just as she is. After years of self-loathing and self-destructive behaviour, she hit an all-time low but thanks to therapy, good friends and an award-winning blog, she has rebuilt herself to become a TV presenter and an inspirational role model for young people. Thanks to her bravery, instinctive honesty and ability to break down taboos, Grace is now able to speak openly about her personal battles and she regularly offers guidance to her legion of fans.
Brimming with hilarious anecdotes and no-nonsense advice, the Internet's Big Sister tells you everything you need to know about accepting yourself and fighting back, in style. 
I give this book 4.5 out of 5.0 stars.

I must add this before you read on, this book for me comes with a trigger warning. It contains some sensitive issues. This may also contain some spoilers.

Wednesday, 13 September 2017

Weightloss Wednesday || The Benefits Of A Solid Breakfast

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Breakfast is the only meal that I regularly skip, by that I mean it’s about 5 out of 7 days that I don’t eat it. There are multiple reasons, I might be going out and I’ve woken up late, I don’t like my breakfast etc but more than likely it’s because I sleep through it.

Monday, 11 September 2017

The Best Relatable Disney Quotes In One List

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Today I want to focus on quotes from Disney Films.

Everyone loves Disney films, I actually have never met someone who doesn’t have at least one favourite Disney film. I did a post on my favourite Disney films! Despite being children's films they have sometimes deep and meaningful morals behind the films. From there, we get some absolutely cracking quotes for pretty much everything. From fish, with memory loss to emotions in a child's brain, there is something being talked about in every film that someone can relate to. So with that, I thought, why not put all my favourite and most important quotes into my new Quote list series.

Monday, 4 September 2017

Charity Spotlight - The Childrens Trust, Tadworth

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The Childrens Trust, Tadworth - https://www.thechildrenstrust.org.uk

This charity is one that is very close to my heart and to where I live. I attended a primary school about 2 minutes from where they are based and live in the same village too. My boyfriend, while not as serious as these children’s and not half as bad, does have brain damage caused by his illness, so I feel a sense of closeness to the subject of brain injuries and illnesses.

Wednesday, 30 August 2017

Weightloss Wednesday || Subtle, Easy & Positive Changes For Weightloss

I wanted to talk first about how badly I have done this week. I am so disappointed in myself because of the way I have eaten, I know I can do it but for some reason, my will power is at almost zero. I recently had a run in with some 12 years olds who called me fat and massive and honestly it didn't upset me because my self-worth doesn't come from the words of a 12-year-old but it did open my eyes to the fact that I am obviously bigger in other people's eyes than in mine. I honestly look in the mirror and while I feel massive I don’t feel obese. I feel this may be a coping mechanism though because I am aware I probably do look bigger. I was bullied as a child about my weight and it affected me badly at first, as it does when you're a child. It seems to hurt more coming from someone your own age. I like to think I've done a great job to get to the point now where words about my weight do not hurt me. 

Monday, 21 August 2017

Quotes To Make You Feel More Motivated

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So, with the start of the new quotes series, I have so far focused on Positive quotes and Harry Potter quotes. Today I want to focus on Motivational Quotes.

While you may think, well aren’t positive quotes the same as motivational quotes; well sort of. Positive quotes are great but motivational quotes focus more on the need to get something done such as work, writing, painting anything especially if you are stuck procrastinating or in a slump of inspiration. They make you focus on the good that can come from continuing or finishing something. I use these through A-level and more recently throughout my University work to try and remind and encourage myself of the benefits of finishing but also the great feeling that comes with it. Whether you are trying to change the world, better yourself or just enjoying a project these quotes can help you find and carry that spark through to the end.

Friday, 18 August 2017

Accessibility Review On Our Latest London Trip

London Panorama, Big Ben

So, James & I went to London on Monday, I suffered after with pain in my hips, feet and back but I’m so glad we went. I sometimes feel upset when we visit these places because it reminds me that I’m not in a position both financially or physically to do little trips out like this as much as I’d like too. My body is fragile, so is James (although he will never in 1million years admit it) so I tend to stay in my comfort zone where I know rest isn’t far away.

Anyway, so we stayed on the south bank area, one of my favourites in fact because we were visiting the sea life centre and London Dungeons. Now, this was my first time going to the dungeons at all, I’ve been to the sea life centre a lot but it was my first time seeing the new ocean invaders display! My main worry was accessibility. With James using a stick and with my feet, back and hip I was worried about how we would get on which is what inspired this post. I thought I’d talk about the accessibility and ease of going to these places with disabilities and mobility aids.


Wednesday, 16 August 2017

Weightloss Wednesday || Time To Change For The Baby I Want So Badly

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So, the last few weeks I haven’t been blogging, mainly because my laptop was running so slow it was taking much longer to do anything. So now I and J have invested in a computer I’m getting back into the swing of things. To kick it off I’m doing my first Weight loss Wednesday in a while.

Monday, 17 July 2017

I Was Nominated For The Liebster Award!

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I am so happy to have been nominated for the Liebster Award by this brilliant blogger. The Liebster Award is aimed at recognising newer blogs for their impact on the blogging community and their hard work and effort. It also allows you to make connections and become a bigger part of the blogger community itself.

I would like to say huge thank you to This Big Wild World for nominating me. I thoroughly recommend this blog to anyone with a love of travel, the world or people who love photography, in fact, anyone in general really. Her blog is full of beautiful pictures and I must say I am very very jealous of the adventures and experiences she gets from solo travelling! This is a great opportunity and means a lot to me!

Wednesday, 12 July 2017

Weightloss Wednesday || Using The Summer To Make Positive Changes

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So with the warm weather, the UK has been having lately and the negative weightless posts I've been putting out, I decided today would be different. 
Today's post is all about positive steps and the positive aspects of weight loss and exercise. Too many people get down in the dumps and stressed over losing weight, regular exercise and eating healthy I'm guilty of this but I realised yesterday to actually commit to this I need to be fully into it and I need to stop associating it with negativity. So time to get positive!

Monday, 10 July 2017

A List Of Quotes That Will Make You Feel More Positive


So my Harry Potter Inspirational Quotes List did so well I thought I'd do another list of quotes.

There are many reasons people feel the need to hear or read quotes; whether to get through the day, motivate themselves or even just because they enjoy them. I have always loved Pinterest for Quotes, well graphics of quotes, but the best quotes come from books, films and people. Positive quotes are the best and motivational quotes are what keep me going and reminds me of what I can achieve if I try. I've written down a few of my favourites. In fact, when I was going through my A-Levels, being told by teachers I wouldn't achieve and while doing my university essays etc these are a few of the best that got me through. They also reminded me, while battling my Mental Health issues, that life is precious and we only get one, so to make it the best I can.

Wednesday, 5 July 2017

Weightloss Wednesday || Eating Is My Terrible Nightmare


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This week has been a week of reflection for me especially when it came to food and how I felt about myself and my body. I have struggled with my weight for years, of course, I know this and so does everyone else. I have discussed it multiple times on this blog but it has only been very recently that I realised I had such an unhealthy relationship with food and that the speed of which I have gained weight is much quicker than I ever thought it was. In fact, so much quicker I was sure I might have been pregnant, because of the rapid weight gain but alas, I wasn't. Due to my PCOS, It took me less than 3 months to gain just under 2 stone so around 13lbs, but it took me 5 months to lose just under 2 stone about 12lbs. How is that fair? All the hard work and healthy eating that goes into losing weight and it would still take less time to eat myself to death than to get to a 'healthy and lower BMI'. It is very hard to be encouraged to keep going with a diet when you know that your own body is against you and everything you do just feels essentially pointless. 

Monday, 3 July 2017

Learn About Butterlifes By Looking After Your Own

So if you follow me on Twitter or Instagram you'll know that for the last month or so, My little brother Rupert (he's just turned 4) and I have been growing little butterflies, well caterpillars firstly that grew into butterflies. 

Friday, 30 June 2017

Why I Will Never Stop Discussing My Mental Health Struggle



LONELY BENCH

So Mental Health is a huge topic at the moment. More and more people are talking about their experiences and coming forward with their struggles putting the seriousness at the forefront of the topic. Celebs like Beyonce and Justin Bieber are openly talking about their own mental health struggles and now more than ever mental health is kicking back and fighting stigma and discrimination in every which way it can.

So I decided it was time to open up about my struggle a bit more in the hopes that people understand more about it. 1 in 4 people are said to struggle with mental health so in a group of only 4 people, one would have mental health. It's now so common to suffer that you will likely know many people who suffer from it without even ever realizing they did.  I myself can think of many people close to me that suffer from it.  There are many many different mental ailments that a person could suffer from and they even believe 1 in 5 children suffer from mental health issues as well. Suicide is one of the top causes of death and self-harm is more common now than ever before. It does not affect any specific; race, gender, sexuality, class etc meaning anyone is susceptible to mental illness. 

Wednesday, 28 June 2017

Weightloss Wednesday || It Has Been Disastrous

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So for the last few weeks/months, I've been gone. I took a short break (explained here) and so I haven’t done a Weightloss Wednesday quite some time!

Not much has changed if I'm honest. In fact, I've definitely put on weight rather than taken it off. It has been stressful and very busy few weeks and if I'm honest, because I over eat and binge when emotional I have just eaten crap. It was also my Sisters, Mine and my Brothers birthday this month, and tradition is we have meals out for each birthday, so I've eaten out a lot too. It has also been very hot and while most people stop eating in the heat, I'm the opposite. I've eaten more things like ice-cream etc to try and keep cool! 
I seem to be craving sweet food, which is very annoying, The things with the most sugar in and I hate it. I want to be able to say, yes I'm losing weight and feeling confident. I want to have good news to share, but the fact I haven't eaten myself to death yet is great nIws i suppose!

Monday, 26 June 2017

20 Years Of The Harry Potter Series, In Quotes

Today, 26th of June 2017, marks the 20 year anniversary of one of the greatest stories ever told. Before ever becoming a movie, Harry Potter was a novel, written by JK Rowling. 12 publishers rejected it, and only 1 saw its potential, Bloomsbury, and what started after that was 20 years of magic and love. 7 books and 8 films later and it's one of the best-known stories in the world. Both the books and films have won numerous awards and even to this day new theories and information come out about the wizarding world.

Wednesday, 17 May 2017

I'm Excited To Be Back. Why The Break From Blogging & Social Media?

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So some of you may have realised I've been gone for a while. It has been nearly 4 weeks since I posted anything on my blog, Instagram and even Pinterest. While my twitter was still active I tried to limit my usage of that platform as well. It was very sudden, short but so needed. I have definitely missed it all, crazily as soon as I took a break I wanted to get back into it! 

Wednesday, 19 April 2017

Weight Loss Wednesday || The Emotional Eater

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Week 2 of my weight loss kick was a bad week for me. What with it being Easter I wasn't expecting any miracles. I have not eaten chocolate because I gave it up for lent and so I knew as soon as I was able to I'd indulge myself and eat a lot of chocolate. Well, I did. Plus a big easter lunch and takeaways. I just made bad decisions. 

Wednesday, 12 April 2017

Weight Loss Wednesday || The Scary Start

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So with PCOS weight gain and weight loss is a mission, to put it lightly. While it's not the case for all, most women end up overweight with this condition nd usually have conditions like insulin resistance that run along the side of it. Don't ask me why that part I have no idea about! If you do, let me know!
We find it very easy to put weight on (seriously I could look at chocolate and gain a pound) and find it very difficult to take off. Cruelly additional weight only adds to the problem, yet it is a symptom as well. Extra weight only decreases chances of fertility and adds to chances of developing other problems like heart disease and diabetes etc.

Monday, 10 April 2017

5 Ways That Can Help When Feeling Overwhelmed With Life

It's very easy these days to take on too much. work, education, health etc we all want to fit in as much as we possibly can, which is great until we hit the wall of stress. Feeling overwhelmed is something that comes along very suddenly when doing lots of activities and projects at once. We take on too much when we don't have the time to manage it all.

Overloaded With Work

Monday, 3 April 2017

Finding Your Motivation After Losing It

I've already touched on the subject of motivation before, Tips On Increasing Motivation, but what about when your motivation has completely hit rock bottom? You're struggling to even sit down and start work, feeling at a loss and don't know where to start? 

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Friday, 31 March 2017

My Top 5, Most Loved, Disney Movies

So I wanted to do a light-hearted blog post today, one that everyone could enjoy! It has been a strange week for me, lots of things going on and I didn't fancy being too serious. So instead I thought why not share my top 5 Disney movies. I don't think I've ever met someone who hasn't loved at least one Disney movie! I mean there is a lot but they are so well made and usually so well cast it's a given really.

Wednesday, 29 March 2017

Saying Goodbye To Our Much Loved, Beautiful Dog

This still a very raw and upsetting topic for me but I wanted to be able to tell people about the experience and maybe help or inform others.

Goodbye To Our Dog

Monday, 27 March 2017

My Top 5 Essential Items For Students

Students, you may be or have been one or know one but with more and more people staying in education and attending higher education places of studying, the odds of speaking to a student are basically a given. Did you know, that being a student is one of the hardest times of your life; 1 in 4 are believed to suffer from some form of mental illness during this period. Deadlines, Financial problems, Stress, Pressure and Exams can be too much for most and like becomes a struggle.
That’s where this blog post hopes to help take away at least some of the stress, worry and pressure of student life.

Sunday, 26 March 2017

Mothers Day Special - The Everlasting Love Of A Mother

We all have them. Whether we speak to them, see them, live with them or have lost them we all came from one woman. She was the reason you were conceived, carried so preciously inside her and eventually the reason you were born. She went through tremendous pain for our arrival, for our privilege to be on earth. We are here because of her.

This does not automatically mean however that she can be called a mother. A mother is so much more than someone that has given birth to you. A mother is someone who loves you with every ounce of her being, a woman who sacrifices her old way of life for you, who keeps you safe, warm and healthy and raises you into being a decent member of society.
She supports you in what you do and she's proud of you for every little thing she can be proud of you for (the only person who will cheer you on when you first wee'd on the toilet!) 
The love she has is fierce, strong and unconditional. It's a love like nothing else.

Wednesday, 22 March 2017

The Benefits Of Studying With The Open University

I have been studying with the Open University for a while now, I'm nearing the end of my second year! I couldn't have imagined I'd ever be doing this, I thought my anxiety and depression had completely ruined my chances of getting a degree. Along the way, I have picked up my own tips and tricks for studying with them but this post is all about the benefits of studying with the Open University.


My Open University Essay Writing Space
My Open University Essay Writing Space

This isn't just for those with health issues, this is for anyone considering studying with them.

Monday, 20 March 2017

An Honest Open Letter To: My Body

With my official diagnosis of Fibromyalgia being sent by my rheumatology consultant to my GP last week, I thought I'd start a new series on my blog. Open Letters dedicated to certain subjects or people I feel I need to address. They will be honest, spontaneous and most importantly they will come straight from the heart. 
To kick off the series an open letter to my body seems fitting. 

To My Body, 





Teenager Beth
Teenager Beth
Oh, my peculiar body. With all its quirks. Where do I even begin?


Baby Beth
Toddler Beth

Friday, 17 March 2017

5 Inspirational People Who Helped Me Decide To Blog

So when I decided to start blogging it wasn't just a switch turning on; it was a series of small decisions. I wanted to help, inspire, influence, educate and entertain other people as I had seen many other people do before me. I saw it as a platform to build more advocacy for the illnesses I suffered from and a way of helping people, however, it also to allow me to get down what I was feeling or reviews of things I really loved.

There were a few people who really pushed me into blogging, and I'm so glad they did because, through this blog and the social media accounts for this blog, I have found some really lovely people and support I have barely found at all in my real life. These are in no specific order but they all made an impact!

Monday, 13 March 2017

How To Manage Living Alone With Your Chronic Illness

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Chronic illness is hard to deal with in any situation but living alone can make dealing with it seem impossible. I've have been living alone for 2 years now, in that time period I've gained another diagnosis had another operation and survived living on basically nothing.
These are just a few tips and tricks that have helped me.

Friday, 10 March 2017

The School of Rock Was Amazing And Here's My Reasons Why!

School Of Rock, The Musical
Sunday 19th February 2017
So James and I had been waiting for this since Christmas. The film is one of my favourites, and Jack Black plays the role SO well so I was worried that no one could live up to the expectation. We had seen a preview of a song or two on X-Factor which brought our attention to the show!
I took so long to get ready, (my own fault) it seemed to take forever to get up to London because the trains were messed up and I felt sick and achy. I had started the day off badly and was worried this would affect how much I enjoyed it. I was so so wrong. 

Wednesday, 8 March 2017

Top Tips For Increasing Motivation

Mess works for me.

So you sit down to do work or revision...You may have deadlines to do, you may already feel stressed, you may be way behind and want to cry. You've lost all motivation, you're unhappy and you want to quit. Wait. Have a drink, a break and i shall tell you some of my personal top tips to stay motivated. 

Unlike my blog posts on Staying On Top Of Work and Keeping Positive And Combating Stress motivation is a completely different thing. You can be relaxed, be up to date with work, be in a good mind set but find yourself completely unmotivated to do any work. Don't panic, everyone and i mean everyone will face a lack of motivation at some point. Please don't feel pressured and that you're the only one, it's totally normal. I have faced it a few times in the last month let alone in my whole life! I'm going to share how i re-motivated myself, and i hope it can help you too!

Monday, 6 March 2017

Tips For Days You Find Yourself Bed Bound

Me looking terrible during a flare up
So you're stuck in bed; pain, exhaustion, weakness etc have stuck you down. You are pre, post or currently in a flare up or are bed ridden for another reason such as surgery. You struggle to do anything and everything and to top it off you're bored. What could possibly help, can anything make it manageable?

I've written some of my top tips for coping with being bed bound from a day to a few weeks. No one likes just lying there staring at walls and thinking. These are personal things that have got me through many flare ups and 2 back surgery recovery times. I'm not saying it cures, stops or decreases the effects of being bed-ridden; these are merely ways of trying to cope and manage when it's happening. 

Friday, 3 March 2017

Illumicrate - Bookish Subscription Box - Unboxing

As it was world book day yesterday and I received this box this week I thought I'd do a review/unboxing! 

So i wanted to try out a subscription box based on all things books. I've had a graze boxes before which is foodie goodness but i wanted something i could really enjoy; and that i would like anything they chucked at me just because books. I looked around for a while, in fact i spent about a month  researching all the boxes i could find on Cratejoy. Money is tight, so i didn't want something expensive, i was happy to go for something that was sent out quarterly for a good price, which is when i found illumicrate. I read all about it and decided it sounded perfect for what i wanted. 

Wednesday, 1 March 2017

Important Self Care Tips and Ideas

Where i live. My favourite place to sit and think.
Self care is a very important, and should be a regular part of your life be it daily, weekly or monthly. Mental and physical health are essential to our quality of life and being able to recognise and aid its health is necessary. So here are some of my tips and ideas for quality self care help. 

Monday, 27 February 2017

February Favourites

So this is my first favourites post and let me tell you, its a good one, everything from books to food. I can't believe quite how fast this year is going, we're so close to March its ridiculous. It's been a strange month for me and I'm really glad it's over if I'm honest. 

Friday, 24 February 2017

5 Ways To Stay On Top Of Work


So needless to say any type of work be it education, house tasks or employment, can be boring at times and difficult to get through. You leave it for a day, then another and soon you realise you're so close to the deadline and you've procrastinated so much you have nothing done; panic sets in. Remember we are all guilty of this at some point even though some people wont admit it. I have always been a procrastinator when it came to education and house work, however now I'm doing a degree (at home with the Open University) and i have a flat of my own to run i have to be even more aware of staying on top of things. 

Wednesday, 22 February 2017

Staying Positive And Combating Every Day Stress

So we all have tough times in life, whether you suffer from mental illness or not. Life throws us all sorts of obstacles to get through and sometimes it can be hard to know how to keep positive and not let the stress get to you. So I'm here to give you some of my top tips for staying positive and fighting stress, which hopefully can help you too.

Monday, 20 February 2017

Get To Know Me More In 25 Questions

Cornwall, 2016
So I thought this would be a fun way to get to know me a little more. I'm planning on doing a few questions posts.

1. What is your middle name?
A- Rose Elisabeth
2. What is your favourite colour?
A- Grey
3. How many countries have you visited?
A- Between 10 and 13 I can't remember exactly.
4. What is your favourite animal?
A- Elephant

Thursday, 16 February 2017

That Feeling Of Not Being Good Enough


When I was first told about my Fibromyalgia I was happy in a sense, maybe the wrong word, relieved is better, I had a reason for feeling so awful and in pain all the time, I thought people might actually believe me now, let me learn how to live and that was that. However, in the 6 months since, I have had so many learning curves in relation to living with a disability. I had to grieve my old life, the old way of doing things because I needed to look after myself and learn to become happy again in a world where I felt everything I did was wrong.

My very first realisation was my consultant, while lovely and helpful he started to tell me all the drugs and programmes that can manage my diagnosis and keep the pain at bay. This abled person, who has no idea how hard this has been and continues to be is sitting in his comfy chair being paid thousands to tell me it will be fine I’ll resume my normal life and he wants to discharge me. Then he ushers me out the room and sends me off. With this news, on my own into the world, that's that. My life, categorised by a single 15-minute appointment, I felt every emotion in about a second.

Society has this preconceived idea that the disabled are not mentally or physically capable to carry out a "normal" day to day life. Of course, it differs for everyone but all of us have the ability to be a member of society. I think abled people forget while we do have diagnoses we all are more than our illnesses. We love people, we have interests and hobbies, we learn. It’s a matter of adjusting for us. Our life has a purpose with or without the same things an abled person has. 

In today's world, we are taught that everyone is equal. Everyone deserves the same treatment, but unfortunately, like a lot of minority groups, most disabled people have faced problems. Employment is one area of life that can be severely affected; employers not wanting to make adjustments, not hiring you, bullying etc. Businesses think of money, in fact, money rules almost everything in life. While legally you aren't supposed to be discriminated against in employment we all know it happens way too frequently. Don’t believe me here are a few news stories.
Me, Before Diagnosis, France 
We are taught that being on benefits and getting help is a sign of weakness, that we should be ashamed and that we are 'screwing' the system mainly because of a few abled people who do use the system to make their life easier. Benefits are there for those who need it, the truth is it's hard enough to get on and stay on it and it's barely anything in comparison to what we could get while working but it's something rather than nothing. We don't need to work to feel proud of ourselves and we don't have to work to please others. 

I haven't even started on just how the ablest treat the disabled in general. When someone is visibly unwell or disabled for example carrying a stick, you sort of expect a level of respect and compassion. This doesn’t always happen. I was out with my partner, James, who uses a stick to walk and stay up right. On a busy train, he was made to stand the entire journey, while business men, school children and other general commuters sat there ignoring him. It's an inconvenience to them, obviously not understanding is a major part of it, but where has the care in the world gone? There are so many stories of people being rude, cruel and unkind to people with disability, and it saddens me that we can be abused so easily. Society has such strict rules and ideas of how people should be in every sense of their self; appearance, ambition, class etc and when you don't fit the mould you are ridiculed. 
Kindness and compassion are free. It's not something that requires effort, but something that can make all the difference. More understanding would be brilliant, but we cannot expect that from everyone. We can, however, believe in the power of people, the power of kindness. At least I believe in it. 

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Tuesday, 14 February 2017

Everyday Problems Associated With Chronic Illnesses

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So having chronic illnesses rules my life. I try not to allow it but unfortunately, it sometimes wins. Flare ups happen at the worst times. They are unpredictable, debilitating, sad and isolating. It's when all my symptoms come together and increase their attack. I get symptoms which only occur during flare ups and I have symptoms that never leave. You learn to distinguish between the two after a while.
So what problems do we face living with multiple chronic illnesses?  

Friday, 27 January 2017

5 Things I Wish People Understood About Chronic Illness

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Having a chronic illness is one of the hardest things I have ever had to experience, and I didn't realize how many people suffered with them until I joined this community. I also didn't realize how much discrimination and judgment surrounded it too. Most of this stems from the unknown if people don't understand and don't take the time to educate themselves then it's hard to see what we have to deal with. However, there are in fact, a few who just like to make judgement on other people and don't have any interest at all in the struggle for a 'normal' life.

Wednesday, 25 January 2017

5 Things I Learnt That Help My Anxiety

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Anxiety is completely mind boggling to put it lightly. It can range from mild to severe affecting different aspects of life. It can feel very isolating, the mental symptoms such as worrying and paranoia alone are awful but then adding in the physical symptoms it can become unbearable, at its worst it can be debilitating. There are many professionals that will tell you lots of different things. ways to cope, what not to do etc but recovery is a very personal experience. While what these professionals are offering is proven to help it is entirely up to you on whether you think it's best for your situation.

Monday, 23 January 2017

My Review of Rivers Of London by Ben Aaronovitch

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Author  — Ben Aaronovitch
Genre — Urban Fantasy
Published — 2011
Wikipedia Synopsis [1] – The novel center’s around the adventures of Peter Grant, a young officer in the Metropolitan Police; who, following an unexpected encounter with a ghost, is recruited into the small branch of the Metropolitan that deals with magic and the supernatural.

Peter Grant, having become the first English apprentice wizard in over seventy years, must immediately deal with two different but ultimately inter-related cases. In one he must find what is possessing ordinary people and turning them into vicious killers, and in the second he must broker a peace between the two warring gods of the River Thames and their respective families

I give this book 4.0 out of 5.0 stars.

STOP READING if you do not want any spoilers.

Friday, 20 January 2017

My Ramblings About Body Image In Today's Society

I’ve started to think about how men and women think about themselves. I’ve never been very confident about the way I look, but I’ve always tried to make my personality bolder to take away the pressure from looking perfect, by that I mean I managed to get myself into the popular group of girls who all looked amazing and had boyfriends at some time in school, by just being myself and adding to it by coming across more confident than I was. I was happy but I knew I didn’t look the way everyone else did.

Wednesday, 18 January 2017

The Ramblings Of My Mental Health

TW: Depression, Self Harm, Death
So I have suffered with some form of mental illness since I was 12. It started as anxiety then developed into depression and anxiety and now it’s just a big ball of messy illness that runs my entire life.
I have missed parties, not gone to university, missed countless days of work etc. just because of an illness that cruelly controls my brain. So I’ve developed my own ways of dealing with it, in particular writing. When I’m in my darkest days, when depression is crushing my every hopes and my anxiety is keeping me confined to my bed, my ‘safe’ place I write. I say everything that's on my mind to just get it out, and it works. So now that I’m on the road to recovery I thought ‘hey why not let others read it’ even if this just gives people the idea of what it feels like to have these feelings within your head.
So here goes….

Monday, 16 January 2017

Open University And It's Inclusion Of The Disabled

Many people, young and old all go through some sort of education but not everyone chooses to go on to complete higher education certificates. Having a disability can seem life limiting; chronic pain, exhaustion, stiffness etc and this can put many people off doing any kind of education but the Open University is an excellent choice for those wanting to do something with their time or get an education. 

The idea of the OU is it is a distance learning university. This means you can complete the degree in your own time and at your own home. Student loans can pay for the course like at a usual university and it can be completed part time or full time. There are about 120 qualifications to choose from and they even offer some free courses on their website OpenLean. 

Friday, 13 January 2017

So What Can I Say To Someone With A Chronic Illness?

Following on from my post about ableism (Dealing with ableist comments) it seemed only fair to do a post on what can be said and what's helpful to us. 

Yesterday my mum said you're so sluggish lately, you need to do exercise that'll make you feel better' now my mum isn't being mean she just doesn't understand how my condition affects me and she's just trying to be helpful. When I told her about her comment being ableist she said 'well what can I say to you then' and it's a valid point. Knowing about your condition doesn't necessarily make it any easier when it comes to trying to help someone and not upsetting or offending them. We all know that there is a very thin line between offence and advice and plenty of people find it hard to differentiate between the two. I have seen so many posts about what you can't say so here's what you can! 
I've made a list of 8 of the best things people have said to me:

Wednesday, 11 January 2017

My Review of The Fault In Our Stars by John Green

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I love reading, and I do it a lot so it's only fair I review my most recent books I've read! Reading is a great way to distract yourself and keep yourself entertained when your body is fighting against you. Coping mechanisms are important for whatever illness and finding a few that suit you is crucial. 
Author – John Green
Genre—Young Adult fiction
Published—2012
Synopsis –Despite the tumor-shrinking medical miracle that has bought her a few years, Hazel has never been anything but terminal, her final chapter inscribed upon diagnosis. But when a gorgeous plot twist named Augustus Waters suddenly appears at Cancer Kid Support Group, Hazel’s story is about to be completely rewritten.
I give this book 3.0 out of 5.0 stars.

STOP READING if you do not want any spoilers. 

Monday, 9 January 2017

Dealing With Ableist Comments

You're fat, why are you in that chair, why cant you just cheer up, just stop hurting yourself, just stop eating, just start eating, do exercise, you're so lazy, you are always sleeping, you don't need that disabled space you don't look disabled, its only pain. Just stopThese are just a few of the comments I've had and I've heard other people get told. 


So first things first what is ableism? Ableism is the discrimination by individuals who are non-disabled, resulting in discrimination or social prejudice against people with disabilities. ([1]  Ableism, Wikipedia) Yes unfortunately this term exists and yes unfortunately this is a big problem. In life you meet all sorts of people, from many different places and many different walks of life and in every case you hope these people are good, down to earth, non judgemental, caring people and for the most part they are, apart from that minority. You know the minority I'm on about; those who ridicule and bully people who are different. In a world where the ever increasing pressure to be perfect is everywhere disabled people (whether its an invisible disability or visible) are routinely commented on. This isn't just looks, its about your lifestyle and giving you 'advice' about how to live or manage your condition or even just small comments that shouldn't mean anything but deep down to you they do. 

Friday, 6 January 2017

Tips To Use When Talking To Your Doctor

So you've been plagued by symptoms and its started to worry you, you think it's time to see the doctors. This can be an extremely scary and confusing time. If you are like me, you symptom spot everything and always check Google. DON'T! I can't tell you the amount of times I've had cancer, brain tumors, kidney failure, heart attacks etc which has turned out to be basically normal things like colds. My sister and I were notorious for self-diagnosis when we were young. Paranoid all the time that we were dying. Needless to say, we were always wrong, I was actually a very healthy child. 


So I've made a list of some tips to remember when going to the Doctors...


Wednesday, 4 January 2017

How I Manage My Own Battle With Sleep

So if you suffer from Fibromyalgia you may already know that the relationship with us and sleep can be a toxic one. We either cannot go to sleep, we have disturbed sleep, we cannot wake up or we don't have a refreshing sleep (we wake up still tired). This isn't just limited to fibromyalgia however, there are a huge amount of people that have problems with sleep and exhaustion. In the UK various sleep reports about the population are released which is alarming to read. 
Here are just a few: 

  • Nearly half of those in the UK are getting just six hours sleep or less a night. And an alarming four out of five people complain of disturbed or inadequate sleep. (Sleep Council ‘Toxic Sleep’ survey, January 2011)
  • 1 in 3 young people achieves just 4 to 7 hours’ sleep instead of the recommended 8 to 9 hours. Almost a quarter admit they fall asleep watching TV/listening to music or with other machinery still running more than once a week. (Sleep Council Junk Sleep study on 1,000 12-16year olds, 2007)

Monday, 2 January 2017

Is This The Start Of My Own Disability Journey?

I woke up one morning, beginning of May 2016, it was raining like usual and I could already feel the pain in my back and legs. I had just woken up from a 6-hour sleep: the usual waking up a lot, restless legs and not being able to actually fall asleep. I don't know what was different about today; was it the pain that seemed to be worse than usual, was it the fact I was exhausted even though I'd just woken up or was it the worry that maybe this wasn't normal. Straight away I phoned work, I explained I wouldn't be in and then I phoned my doctors. After the usual 10 minutes wait for the receptionist to answer I was bombarded with the usual "is it really urgent" "do you really need to be seen today" "maybe just rest" before I managed to convince her I wanted to be seen today.